I still look really bad, like nothing has happened, can I Just not expect better results, is this the end of the road. I know people always tell me “your beaitful inside” (im not mad at them) and shit like that

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    I’ve seen you here and seen your pictures before. This is an unflattering pic of you but no, you don’t look like you think you do either.

    So much of your problem isn’t going to change with just hrt. The problem is you hate yourself. You’re probably also conflating beauty with gender. I’ll be direct: in a lot of your pics I’ve seen, you look like a woman. You just also look… terrible. Your hair is a disaster (as an extremely curly haired woman myself, I know it can be difficult to learn how to manage it but managing it once you know how to isn’t. Nor is it difficult to get there, it just takes trial and error. I’m not gonna tell you you should lose weight but it seems like you have a lot of negative feelings about it too. That’s within your control and if you think you’ve tried and failed, you either tried something that wouldn’t work or didn’t try hard enough.

    For all of the different ways you hate yourself, I can recommend one of two things: therapy or change it. Or both is better tbh. Change your hair, your clothes, your demeanor. Those will make huge differences. You aren’t the way you think you are but you’re not a model either and you don’t have to be to be a woman

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      I’m gonna be honest, it just hurts. Like if I look a women I’m not pretty and never will be. Accepting that I lost is hard. Being bullied for my appearance as a kid, only to be discimated for it as an adult. I just conviened I’ll never be happy

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        You’re just flat out wrong that you’ll never be pretty. You absolutely can have that but it takes work you’re currently not willing to undertake. There’s a lot you can do to change your appearance that would make a huge difference before even considering stuff like surgery or weight loss which I get the impression you think you need to be happy. Seriously girl, hair care alone would do a lot. And if the little things well within your power aren’t something you’re willing to entertain doing, your problem isn’t actually your appearance. It’s you.