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Cake day: July 3rd, 2023

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  • I want to clarify something. Establishing boundaries is okay, and a microblog can be very personal. A microblog can be a safe space for someone, but also a brand account that has everyone screaming at it. Establishing boundaries on an account that’s personal is more akin to establishing a boundary as a person. Some people get harassed. That’s just a reality. If someone is triggered by constant corrections because of harassment, there’s no reason they shouldn’t be able to establish that boundary. But that’s up to them to establish, not to assume everyone else would or should know and that people are evil if they don’t.




  • The thing is that there are reply guys who are in it just to be a nuisance. My criticism is that they aren’t trying to establish boundaries with innocent people, and that they resort to basically bullying people for trying to be nice, and have a conversation.

    I don’t fully agree with the notion that a microblog is a third place like, say, Lemmy or Reddit is. A profile can be incredibly personal, and there can be tools used to limit who sees it for that reason. A profile can either be a massive one with a massive audience, or one with a few of your friends following. Those both are very different. The third place would arguably the instance the user is posting on, and those have rules and expectations. Federated conversations are very different. It’s more akin to a town full of third places. In the streets, you need to establish boundaries with people you’re having a conversation with if you don’t know them.


  • One of the traits of ASD is unintentionally offending people. That doesn’t mean people have to accept every rude thing an autistic person does without complaint, and they’re ablist if they don’t. It means you should be understanding and clearly explain boundaries. That’s exactly what the original post did.

    No it didn’t, it tried to explain an invisible boundary like it’s a normal thing for everyone and everywhere when it isn’t.

    Yeah, it’s annoying that some rules are usually unwritten because everyone else already knows them. It would be more annoying if everything anyone ever wrote had “Please don’t respond with advice or criticism” at the end.

    …how is that annoying? People write little messages in content warnings all the time, and like I mentioned in the OP you can stick it in your bio and write it once. Not everyone knows them anyways, because even in the Fediverse that kind of thing can differ a lot. I honestly feel like you didn’t really bother to read my entire post, because your response doesn’t seem to be really addressing the criticisms I made in the post and their reasoning.

    This rule has been written down now, clearly and very politely. Maybe you or I didn’t know it before but we do now. If you refuse to listen and continue correcting strangers on social media that isn’t autism, it’s just being intentionally rude.

    Again, the OP is giving advice for interaction on the network /generally/. They aren’t just talking about themselves. Again, I feel like you didn’t really read what I said, because a lot of what you’re saying is a strawman.