Hello there,
Sorry for my english first,
For very recently now, im a girl at home, and i feel so good like this. Im so good when im wearing my sweatrobe,
When i see my legs shaved, i love them, i love me.
But now when im going outside (i keep the socks under pants) as man, i feel so unhappy, so bad.
How can i still go on without feeling shit to be a man now… i mean, its just wears…
Ive always hated do shoppings, but now i check robes on shops by walking the streets, and just that make me i want to be dress in girl mode, and i feel so unhappy, so sad, i want to cry at theses moments.
Do that will pass with the time,
Is it the classic way of the MTF ?
Could i be happy as girl at home, and as man outside ?
I just hope i feel like this, because affirming me to myself with wearings, is new…
Im now home, with my sweatrobe, with you lemmy, and my guitar, and now im good, now i’m…
Ty for the reading,
As a cis white male who has zero skin in this game and just happened across your post in the feed: I hope that you are able to find and maintain your happiness. It sounds like you have an idea of what you want your life to be like and I hope that you are able to realize it. Good luck, stay strong.
Thanks to you. Really appreciate. I hope you are in the true
It’s unlikely to feel long term satisfaction with living in boymode outside the home. Maybe it can happen, but I haven’t heard of it. And beyond that it sounds like you just aren’t.
Transitioning as much as you feel the need is generally the only path to happiness if your unhappiness is caused by dysphoria
For sure I’m depressive for long now. Multifactor.
But being trans isn’t the ignit of it.Transitioning solves dysphoria. That can help you have the resources to deal with your other issues
I guess that’s what I can’t hear…
Ty vm !
Just as a warning: That way of thinking is what delayed my transition for over a decade. I don’t know for certain yet that transition will solve all of my problems, but those ten years were almost certainly less fun than they could have been.
I take this warning even if its “scary” me as F right now. I hope u do good now. Ty
I know how it feels. I recently quit my job because I didn’t feel safe being out as a trans woman there and now I can be myself full-time (although I don’t have a job anymore lol). I can say that you will probably always be depressed being someone you’re not and having two identities is really tiring.
It is more than clothes though. It is also pronouns and body shape and etc. I think the reason you might have hated shopping before is because you were shopping for men’s stuff and now you are looking at women’s stuff which you like.
If you live somewhere where it is safe to be out as a transwoman then I’d say do it (when you are ready), random people in public care a lot less than you think they would. I’m going to guess that you are French based on you referring to dresses as robes (unless you actually mean robes then idk) in which case you should be ok to be out in public but if you aren’t in a safe place, try looking for ways to get out, I know it’s not easy but it isn’t impossible either.
Ty VM for your message.
I consider how it will be at work if I consider one day an coming out. And if I will have to leave.
But that isn’t an concern for me I guess. You totally speak to me here. Btw I hope u will find another one fast, or not but have money to live well ! ^^
For the coming out, Bravo (French as you thought) ! Its safe where I’m , I’ve just not the strenght to do an coming out. I don’t want to do it too. I’m scared I guess.
I’ve never considered your point of view for the shopping. I’m anti consumers (hate my self because I’m buying stuff theses times ofc XD). For me, its when I see this, I just want to be in girl mode, be dressed as one, " feel like one" without controlling gestures etc. But I’m in man mode when I fell this. I want to be in the euphorya at the moment, but I can’t because not at home… But that’s clearly make sense and give me something to think.
Ty again for your share
I’m anti consumers (hate my self because I’m buying stuff theses times ofc XD)
Remember - gender dysphoria is a legitimate illness. That means whatever you’re buying is medicine, so it doesn’t count as consumerism. 😉 ❤️
Ah ah ty very much. This point of view can help me a lot ^^"
Oh sis, there is no timeline on self discovery or happiness. Girl, just keep doing things that make you happy and live comfortably. I’m so happy and proud of you for taking these first steps at understanding who you are! ♥ 💕 It’s okay to stay in the house especially if you are considered about safety, but it’s also YOUR RIGHT to go and live a normal, happy, productive life in whatever way that feels comfortable to you.
Take it one day at a time and one milestone at a time. But above all else, keep following your bliss!
Im flooded with emotion 🥹🥹.
I Got no words to answers you correctly 🥹🥹
Ty to write me this, One day at a time.
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This is something I had to face, too. It hurt a lot, and since realizing I’m a trans female, there have been some painful moments like those. My mind is more tuned in to what I want, so now when I’m betraying my desire to be female, it hurts more than it did before when I was less aware of this desire.
