A 2021 study by the Census revealed that childless adults age 55 and older had a median net worth of $153,900 compared to $130,400 for biological parents.
I am quite certain that you are a skilled enough communicator to not say
If I had to redo my life, that’s what I’d do.
Which is directly wishing your children were never born, and is a fundamentally different conversation from “By all means, opt not to have children - our financial lives would look quite different if we did not.”
As with most things, how you say it matters as much or more than what you’re saying.
Lol people should feel comfortable enough to admit to their kids they were a mistake. We need to normalize being able to express that so that people can learn to make better choices.
Because the alternative is the child finds out through negative actions and abuse. Lying to your kid their whole lies that they were wanted is like lying about then being adopted. They will make the connection once they make the same mistake and it is too late.
A person an regret having children or missing out on the (childless) life they might have had without regretting the human beings who are their children. Those are just… different things.
Maybe not to you, but plenty of us are secure enough in our existence to have honest conversations with our parents about these things. I hope you get there some day, friend.
I am quite certain that you are a skilled enough communicator to not say
Which is directly wishing your children were never born, and is a fundamentally different conversation from “By all means, opt not to have children - our financial lives would look quite different if we did not.”
As with most things, how you say it matters as much or more than what you’re saying.
Lol people should feel comfortable enough to admit to their kids they were a mistake. We need to normalize being able to express that so that people can learn to make better choices.
Because the alternative is the child finds out through negative actions and abuse. Lying to your kid their whole lies that they were wanted is like lying about then being adopted. They will make the connection once they make the same mistake and it is too late.
You realize one of the benefits of social media is being able to voice a thought without having to refine it first right?
Yes. I also do not see how this person literally regretting their children can possibly be interpreted any other way
A person an regret having children or missing out on the (childless) life they might have had without regretting the human beings who are their children. Those are just… different things.
Not to their children.
Weird hill to die on man. This is an innocuous, very reasonable comment.
Maybe not to you, but plenty of us are secure enough in our existence to have honest conversations with our parents about these things. I hope you get there some day, friend.
Lol when I was 17, during my mom’s divorce of us, she told me she wishes she hadn’t had kids because she didn’t get to party enough.
So now I have 3 kids and I’m a swinger, best of both worlds.
Things worked out