• You get to keep all your current memories and knowledge.
  • Everyone/everything else is a clean slate.
  • You’re starting now (not going back to the past).
  • LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world
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    11 months ago

    Stop acting like I’m worthless with low self-esteem. I don’t know why I present myself that way. I’m a valuable competent skilled employee who passes background checks squeaky clean. Someone smack me and tell me to present myself as I deserve.

    I even declined the hiring bonus because I felt unworthy of it although I meet all the criteria for it 🤦‍♀️ But really what I did was tell my managers that I’d rather be given the hiring bonus after I’ve been there a year because I’ve heard that some companies have a stipulation in the contract of hiring bonuses that should anything happen within the first year of my employment that causes me to stop working there, I would have to repay the bonus, so I kept it in mind that if I ever got a job that promised a hiring bonus, I would discuss it with the manager to have the bonus given to me at the end of a year. well I told my managers this and they told me I would have to talk to a higher up manager about it and they told me her name but I forgot, and they didn’t even look me in the eye when they said this and I just kind of never followed up on it.

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      11 months ago

      Instead of hearing about the bonus maybe being pulled back… just read the contract?
      And even if you would have to give it back… just park it until its free to use (assuming you dont actually need it)

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        11 months ago

        There’s no mention of the hiring bonus in the contract. The hiring bonus was mentioned in the advertisement for the job on ZipRecruiter. I screenshotted it and one of my managers even mentioned it during our initial interview and told me I’m qualified for it so I know it’s real and I have evidence of it. I’m still just laying here in bed in my pajamas not dealing with it. But I’m going to work tomorrow as scheduled.

        as to your other point, over my concern of receiving the bonus and not spending it for a year, impossible that I would not spend that if I had it. I live less than paycheck to paycheck which is why I spend so much time on Lemmy because I don’t have enough money to do the things that I would rather be doing. I just sit here when I’m not working and I pay my bills and all my money’s gone then I go to work and pay my bills and just sit here cuz there is no money left to do anything.

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          11 months ago

          mhh… ianal, but if its not mentioned that its pulled back or under which circumstances you will get the bonus, then they cant do much.
          But unfortunately in the end the one with the most ressources will be able to intimidate theother one… so can be risky

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      11 months ago

      I hate how being humble and having integrity can translate to being taken advantage of in a toxic relationship.

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        11 months ago

        No. It’s not even very much. Anyway I guarantee I need it and would appreciate it more than any random internet stranger asking me to hand it over to them.