• oxjox@lemmy.ml
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      11 months ago

      I’m pansexual.
      In doing my research, both with myself and just with the world, I couldn’t say if I was bisexual, because I had to really see what that was, especially because I really have not gotten a chance to act on anything. So, I came to pansexual because — and I know that I’m completely messing up the dictionary meaning — but to me, pan means being able to be attracted to anyone who identifies as gay, straight, bi, transsexual or non-binary. Being able to be attracted across the board. And, I think, at least for me for right now, that is the proper place. I took pan to mean that not only can I be attracted to any of these people or types physically, but I could be attracted to the person that is there.

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      11 months ago

      If only they addressed that in the article…

      “I am pansexual,” he says, meaning that he is attracted to persons regardless of their sex or gender.
      Brady puts it another way: “Bisexual — with an open mind!” he says with a chuckle.

      Oh wait they did. Read the article.

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        It really gets under my skin when folks frame bisexuality as bigoted pansexuality.

        Edit: I’m not saying he wasn’t making a lighthearted joke and I’m not even really saying he shouldn’t have said it. I’m just sad that for a lot of people this may be the first time they hear about pansexuality and assume it means that people who say they’re bi are transphobic, enbyphobic, or something else.

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        11 months ago

        So somebody wanted to broaden their understanding by asking a simple question and you decided to be a dick?

        Maybe they didn’t have time to read the article and thought somebody would help.

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          The previous comment getting so many votes is saddening on lemmy. Someone asked a question that wasn’t bigoted and instead of taking the opportunity to educate another human they took the time to quote the article and type up a reply that was dismissive. These types of issues can only be resolved with education and someone taking the extra time to put someone else down is definitely not an ally.

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            Right. I personally struggle with a lot of the “terms” these days - not because I think they are wrong, only because I don’t always understand what they mean.

            On Reddit, when I saw them used, I would ask for clarification and I’d learn something.

            Being dismissive to people trying to learn isn’t going to bring them into the ally space.

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          Only eats at a restaurant that has at least one Michelin Star, wears only black socks, listens only to music that was popular when they were between the ages of 12-18 years old, insists that video games and cartoons peaked when they were age 22.